Recently I got this interesting e-mail: it was subtle yet blunt too.A little background.
About a month ago I attended this industry mixer. After work shindig at a hotel bar downtown. Mostly behind-the-scenes TV people from here and around the state.
I met this one rather striking woman--she was in her mid 40's, worked in Sacramento and was some mid-level news staffer at a local TV station. We chatted briefly--she'd mentioned she read my material and liked 415 Media. Nothing out of the ordinary just your basic innocuous biz chit-chat. I moved on and meandered over to the veggie display.
We bumped into each other, again, at the wine set-up. I'd asked if she'd like to share a glass. She accepted. Mind you this was nothing serious, we're talking a harmless glass of red wine with a woman who had a big fat wedding ring on her, but with a caveat. She mentioned, several times, that she was separated. Separated, but married nonetheless. After more rather frivolous conversation except for the fact she was laughing at my jokes, (self-induced two glasses of wine-assisted), I gave her my card and we moved on. She had a late night dinner meeting planned with friends and we parted.
So back to the e-mail. Out of the blue, I get a message. It was from her. She mentioned she was coming to the city for some business on a weeknight and inquired if I'd want to meet her for some drinks and dinner. She'd buy.
My first thought was, "Boy this sounds interesting--go for it." Then I sort of wondered. What was she expecting? Cynical thought too, maybe she was just being nice and looking for companionship--after all, she's separated. But married too. Some of you might be thinking, "oh, shit, gimme a break, seriously, you damn idiot, march on over and meet with her!"
She's a striking 10. She's HOT! Maybe I'm a fool. But I'm having second thoughts. Am I being set up? Is this all an attempt to influence me? Maybe she just likes me but anything more on the horizon is a problem for me, (and her too), because she's married. Oh, did I mention she has kids too. But I digress.
Would it be ethical to meet with a married woman in the business in an evening encounter of dinner and drinks? It's complicated.
Naturally, a part of me says to hell with it and just go have fun. After all, we are adults too and besides, maybe she's just lonely and wants to meet up and have fun, nothing beyond the perimeter. Yes, of course it could be something else and I know you know what I'm referring to--and that's my dilemma.
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ReplyDeletePlay Misty for me.
ReplyDelete...and then you woke up.
ReplyDeleteGo for it....but be cautious. I've learned that in life you never know what is around the next corner. This could be an interesting evening....plus you will learn more about her....which will help you make future decisions on this whole encounter.
ReplyDeleteGo have dinner and drinks with her. Maybe she is getting out of a really shitty relationship and needs someone to talk to.
ReplyDeleteOtherwise pass her number over to me!
I wish I would get that email from darya. Or Elaine Corral. Even Catherine Herman.
ReplyDeleteCatherine Heenan. I hate autocorrect.
DeleteCatherine Heenan would make a date with you and then cancel six times.
Delete12:09 And how would you know something like that about Ms Heenan. Have you pursued her for a date or maybe a kiss?
DeleteI get the feeling that MS. Heenan is playing for the other team...but best of luck - you might just get a bonus deal!
DeleteIf you don't meet with her you need to visit your internist and have them run a full blood panel. Something's wrong.
ReplyDeleteDidn't you say she likes your column? Either this is a test of your creative writing skills, or you overshared. If this is real, and I was her, reading this, I would cancel. Politely but firmly.
ReplyDeleteLOL !
DeleteWell, she reads 415, so now she knows she's being called The Seductress. You better make that call before she changes her mind, brother!
ReplyDeleteMaybe the question should be does her spouse read 415?
DeleteIs this screenplay coming to HBO anytime soon? Sex and the City Reporter?
ReplyDeleteRich,ask yourself.What would Pete Giddings do?
ReplyDeleteThis is complicated on many levels. She is married. She has kids. She is separated. She lives in another city. And now you go public with it. This is what I would do. You know she is interested. She's buying. Weigh all the previous mentioned flags against your level of interest in her. If your interest trumps the red flags review all responses received from your blog. If the responses are overwhelmingly negative but your interest, by a wide margin, trumps the bad reviews, respond with an acceptance. If reviews are a push and/or your interest is a 5 or less, politely decline.. If she accepts your response go to dinner. If she is appalled that you made your possible love connection a public spectacle and withdraws her invitation it was never meant to be regardless....
ReplyDeleteOh, Rich...Go for it!
ReplyDeleteLife is short, damn short. Haven't you noticed how fast life is going?
Who knows what it will lead to.
Hmmmm. I smell TROUBLE on this one. Steer clear. Very clear. Many other less-complicated prospects out there.
ReplyDeleteI might go to dinner, that's cool. Anything more with a married woman and kids is asking for trouble. Many years ago, I had a buddy who was going out with another woman and I asked him if he ever felt sorry for the other sap. What goes around, comes around - first your the gigolo and then you're the cuckold. Too friggin' complicated. Just my opinion.
ReplyDeleteI think it's a recon spy from Cumulus trying to get dirt on you. LOL!
ReplyDeleteSeriously, even if there weren't flaming cities in your rearview mirror, I'd be kind of careful. But in your case, I'd be extra, extra cautious. One also has to wonder about her, too, if she's for real. What's the issue with her husband? There must be some real problems if she's doing this and she has kids at home. Who's taking care of them? That's just my two-cents. I don't give change.
Too many girlie men on this site.
ReplyDeleteGo for it Rich.
No one cares.
ReplyDeleteYou may well be right 2:06. You may well be right. Maybe Savage will be reading this on KSFO. It can't hurt.
DeleteShe likes your blog, so you know she's mental. I'd stay away.
ReplyDeleteMarried? And that's just what she's admitting to.
ReplyDeleteStay away.
go for it...
ReplyDeleteIf she reads this, she knows you're a bozo. Nice going.
ReplyDeleteIts dinner and drinks for God sakes. Quit over-thinking and go have fun.
ReplyDeleteChicks dig the long blog.
ReplyDeleteDid she look like Glenn Close circa 1985 by any chance? Was there a bunny rabbit involved?
ReplyDeleteNo Risky, No Frisky, Richie!
ReplyDeleteAs Gretzky once said, "you miss 100% of the shots you DON'T take!"
Get your freak on, big boy!
Rich,
ReplyDeleteI think that's my wife you're talking about. GO FOR IT! She's wacked and I'm eager to get rid of her. Catch her when her meds are just right and you'll think you're on a launch pad. Just beware... you don't want to be around for splash down.
She's going to slip you a mickey and when you wake up the next day, your wallet will be gone. Then the naked pictures with your face made up like the Joker will show up all over the internet. Radnich and Beil will give each other high-fives.
ReplyDeleteEastwood?
ReplyDeleteOr you could wake up next to Radnich.
ReplyDeleteYikes! She's a complete stranger. Too forward. Stay away. Don't get involved with a married woman!
ReplyDeleteYou gave her your card.
ReplyDeleteShe e- mail to meet you.
Go find out what gives.
Report back to us.
I think I might know who this is. If so, yeah...she's hot.
ReplyDeleteSoooooo, what did you decide? Advice after the fact. I think if you enjoyed her company, I'd go and decide beforehand where your draw the line. If you get an offer, just compliment her like crazy and say thank you and perhaps when her divorce is final, you can spend more time, but in the meantime,you're still kind of an old-fashioned guy that respects family. But remember to compliment her as I mentioned. She'll feel attractive, you'll feel attractive, the meal will be good, and you'll have an interesting experience. You will have developed a basis for her to trust the kind of man you are, in case you see her at another time.
ReplyDeleteConsider this:
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